7 easy ways to get things done for REAL (especially for procrastinators like me)

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This isn’t one of those “How to get work done” posts that gives you really broad, useless advice, like, “JUST DO IT.” Or, “Make wise choices.”

…….I mean, if I really could “JUST DO IT,” or “Make wise choices,” I would.  Wouldn’t we all?

In 2014, I found myself with so many plans in life that it was just easier to do nothing.  My procrastination to action ratio was like 20:1.  Even simple things, like cleaning my bathroom, took at least 20 hours of contemplating before I’d spend the 1 hour needed to scrub the toilet.

Needless to say, there was a lot of sitting around and thinking.

Here are 7 tips that really worked for me in 2014, that I am happy to pass along — in hopes one will work for you!

What happens in the moment you get what you want?

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The morning I turned 21, I woke up wondering if this long-awaited year of life had transformed me.

Had I suddenly become the most beautiful woman in the world?  Had it taught me the meaning of the cosmos?  Had I become a more social person? These were the answers that I hoped would be “yes.”

But that year, like every year on my birthday, I woke up and I realized I was, mostly, the same.   

That year, maybe in hopes of feeling like the most beautiful women in the world – my friends and I would spend our weekends applying heavy makeup, shimmying into tight dresses, gyrating around, and laughing about the advances we’d rejected on our nights out for days afterwards.

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Last week, I lived out my long-awaited last day of work.  Finally.  If you are one of the dear ones who reads my blog regularly, you know I’ve been obsessed with quitting my job for over a year.

The best way to stop stressing about job interviews. #INTERNAL goals

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Hooray!  There are two exciting developments this week to my search for my true path:

1.   I am done with my old job!  Hooray!!!  I am done FOREVER!  I quit a job that stopped being fulfilling, so I can do something that is closer to my values and vision.

2.  I got two more job offers this week.  This makes a total of +5 job offers this Spring, with a 100% success rate of job interview to job offer!

(Want to know how I got so many job interviews?  I wrote out my practical tips for career switching in this blog post.  Then, I followed my own advice!)

I’ve been through a few job interviews this Spring, both formal and informal.  This got me thinking a lot about job interviews, and how they are a lot like first dates.

In short:  

~ We get nervous.

~ We want to impress the other person.

How to respect your enemy: my practice session at work

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Lesson of the Week: How to respect your enemy.

OK, “enemy” is a strong word.  I have this individual in my life, who I’ll call instead: “the Person I Must Show Respect to but Whose Choices I Disrespect.”

You might have such a person in your life, too.  Someone you have to see on a regular basis and get along with.  Someone you may even (gasp) work for.

A few weeks ago, PIMSRTBWCID recently made me the “offer” to listen to my thoughts on an unexpected decision that ended up overriding some hard work that I and others had done.  This is an actual snippet of the conversation:

PIMSRTBWCID: “Elisa, please tell me how you’re feeling.”

Elisa: (opening my mouth to have a conversation with this person for the first time in months)  “I feel really confused because….”

How to find your true path in life, Pt. 2

AKA: “Elisa fumbles around looking for something meaningful to do in life: A multiple-series post.”

Part 1, where I talk about how Life Goals suck, is here.

These past few weeks, I’ve not been so on-top of my daily habits.  I won’t even try to pretend I have good reasons, but I’m also not going to beat myself up for it.  (I’ll do better this week.)

Instead, I want to say that I’ve been thinking this lately.  I wish I’d thought of it myself:

How to Quit your Job (the semi-spiritual primer), Part 2

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My beloved friend doesn’t believe in God for this reason.

“God has never spoken to me,” he says.  “So it’s been hard to believe in God.”

Me, I believe in many higher powers: the universe, nature, human connection.  Despite the fact I don’t believe in any one religion’s God, when telling select colleagues about my recent decision to quit my job, I use their language:

“God was telling me I had to move on.”

It’s easier.  It’s more convenient.  They get it.  And it gets my meaning across.  Were I to discuss my gratitude for the Universe, I’d be met with blank stares.

The 4 most common mistakes people make when giving feedback

  Have you ever had anyone get angry because you gave them feedback?  It’s sad but true: what should be a “critique” often turns instead to “criticism”… and that makes us think of nit-picking, expressing our dislike for, or showing-off our “superior knowledge” of a topic.   This leads many people to hate critique.  On top of that,…