In the midst of chaos, I did this. This official letter came TODAY. I’ve been vaguely referring to “major life decisions” these past few months. Here it is, y’all. My friend asked me about my excitement today: Wait, aren’t you a mostly-self-employed contractor, Elisa? Yes. Yes, I am. So this letter is just the first…
Hey y’all. I’ve been going through an existential crisis lately. My friend J articulated his prompt to me last week, in efforts to help me work through it: How do you see yourself in the world? This question -aka- the most appropriately-timed question ever — has prompted me to uncover some things about myself. This…
This isn’t one of those “How to get work done” posts that gives you really broad, useless advice, like, “JUST DO IT.” Or, “Make wise choices.”
…….I mean, if I really could “JUST DO IT,” or “Make wise choices,” I would. Wouldn’t we all?
In 2014, I found myself with so many plans in life that it was just easier to do nothing. My procrastination to action ratio was like 20:1. Even simple things, like cleaning my bathroom, took at least 20 hours of contemplating before I’d spend the 1 hour needed to scrub the toilet.
Needless to say, there was a lot of sitting around and thinking.
Here are 7 tips that really worked for me in 2014, that I am happy to pass along — in hopes one will work for you!
The morning I turned 21, I woke up wondering if this long-awaited year of life had transformed me.
Had I suddenly become the most beautiful woman in the world? Had it taught me the meaning of the cosmos? Had I become a more social person? These were the answers that I hoped would be “yes.”
But that year, like every year on my birthday, I woke up and I realized I was, mostly, the same.
That year, maybe in hopes of feeling like the most beautiful women in the world – my friends and I would spend our weekends applying heavy makeup, shimmying into tight dresses, gyrating around, and laughing about the advances we’d rejected on our nights out for days afterwards.
Last week, I lived out my long-awaited last day of work. Finally. If you are one of the dear ones who reads my blog regularly, you know I’ve been obsessed with quitting my job for over a year.
Hooray! There are two exciting developments this week to my search for my true path:
1. I am done with my old job! Hooray!!! I am done FOREVER! I quit a job that stopped being fulfilling, so I can do something that is closer to my values and vision.
2. I got two more job offers this week. This makes a total of +5 job offers this Spring, with a 100% success rate of job interview to job offer!
(Want to know how I got so many job interviews? I wrote out my practical tips for career switching in this blog post. Then, I followed my own advice!)
I’ve been through a few job interviews this Spring, both formal and informal. This got me thinking a lot about job interviews, and how they are a lot like first dates.
~ We get nervous.
~ We want to impress the other person.
Lesson of the Week: How to respect your enemy.
OK, “enemy” is a strong word. I have this individual in my life, who I’ll call instead: “the Person I Must Show Respect to but Whose Choices I Disrespect.”
You might have such a person in your life, too. Someone you have to see on a regular basis and get along with. Someone you may even (gasp) work for.
A few weeks ago, PIMSRTBWCID recently made me the “offer” to listen to my thoughts on an unexpected decision that ended up overriding some hard work that I and others had done. This is an actual snippet of the conversation:
PIMSRTBWCID: “Elisa, please tell me how you’re feeling.”
Elisa: (opening my mouth to have a conversation with this person for the first time in months) “I feel really confused because….”
AKA: “Elisa fumbles around looking for something meaningful to do in life: A multiple-series post.”
These past few weeks, I’ve not been so on-top of my daily habits. I won’t even try to pretend I have good reasons, but I’m also not going to beat myself up for it. (I’ll do better this week.)
Instead, I want to say that I’ve been thinking this lately. I wish I’d thought of it myself:
I. Have. A. Problem.
I can only think about my self these days.
My problem is, I’m not that interesting. When I think about myself, I think only of 1 thing.
For you concrete-thinkers, that “1 thing” is “my job.” For you big-picture-thinkers, that “1 thing” is “my path in life.” AKA: “The meaning of my life.”
My beloved friend doesn’t believe in God for this reason.
“God has never spoken to me,” he says. “So it’s been hard to believe in God.”
Me, I believe in many higher powers: the universe, nature, human connection. Despite the fact I don’t believe in any one religion’s God, when telling select colleagues about my recent decision to quit my job, I use their language:
“God was telling me I had to move on.”
It’s easier. It’s more convenient. They get it. And it gets my meaning across. Were I to discuss my gratitude for the Universe, I’d be met with blank stares.
Have you ever had anyone get angry because you gave them feedback? It’s sad but true: what should be a “critique” often turns instead to “criticism”… and that makes us think of nit-picking, expressing our dislike for, or showing-off our “superior knowledge” of a topic. This leads many people to hate critique. On top of that,…