I’ve been thinking this week about the reasons, other than love, that people say “I love you.”
By “you” I mean “a person.” Not actually “you,” per se. By “you” I may even mean “myself.”
You are not in love. You are…..
1. You are worried someone will break up with you. You think “I love you” is a way to ensure your fling/partner/lover will stick around.
2. You are having sex with them, and you’ve got a lot of adrenalin (“excitement” hormone), dopamine (“bonding” hormone), and serotonin (“happiness” hormone) in your brain. *If you argue this “attraction” phase is love, okay, yay. 🙂
3. You are worried you can’t find someone else who will like you as much.
4. You are scared to be alone.
5. You can actually have a meaningful conversation with this person. You’ve never really opened yourself up to anyone before. (Know this: if you’ve opened up to this person, you can find other friends worthy enough to converse with, too!) *Again, if this leads to love, okay, yay!
6. You aren’t sure what love is, because you’ve only really seen it in the movies, and MAYBE between your parents. You’re making out with this person………so you must love them……. right?
7. You have a beautiful image in your mind of what “love” is. Like that it will bring marriage and babies, for example. If you say “I love you” to this person, you believe the image will come true.
8. You want something out of this person, like money, status, or sex, and you think it’ll be easier to get it this way.
9. You have a beautiful image of what this person will do for you. Maybe they will fix your problems, make you happy, or make you popular. You say “I love you” because “I love my idea of you” isn’t as romantic.
Alternatively, you might actually be in love. If so…….. yay!
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